'Ghosted' by my boyfriend: After four years together he left and I never heard from him again
Everyone deals with a break-up differently. But a brutal dating trend sees former partners being 'ghosted' - cut out of their exes' lives entirely, as if they never existed. It happened to Kate Townshend
If you’re in your thirties or forties now and you didn’t have the good fortune to stumble across the love of your life aged 16 when your eyes met across a diet coke bottle of white lightning, then there’s a decent chance that rather than skeletons, your closet is full of the ghosts of relationships past.
I have some exes I’m still friends with. Some I wave to awkwardly when our paths cross at parties; others for whom Facebook has formed the basis of a sufficiently casual but well-meaning truce.
But I also have one, the longest and most significant relationship of my life - until my husband came along - whose fate I have no idea about.
We were together for four years, he lived with my family for a bit, and we talked each other through a variety of twenty-something problems.
Ultimately though, he wanted to get married and I didn’t. He wanted our relationship to move forward, whereas I was very happy with the dinners out and not-too-much-commitment status quo. Don’t get me wrong – I desperately didn’t want to lose him either. What I wanted, was to have my relationship cake, but not to have to move in with it.
'Ghosted' by my ex. After four years I never heard from him again - Telegraph
Everyone deals with a break-up differently. But a brutal dating trend sees former partners being 'ghosted' - cut out of their exes' lives entirely, as if they never existed. It happened to Kate Townshend
If you’re in your thirties or forties now and you didn’t have the good fortune to stumble across the love of your life aged 16 when your eyes met across a diet coke bottle of white lightning, then there’s a decent chance that rather than skeletons, your closet is full of the ghosts of relationships past.
I have some exes I’m still friends with. Some I wave to awkwardly when our paths cross at parties; others for whom Facebook has formed the basis of a sufficiently casual but well-meaning truce.
But I also have one, the longest and most significant relationship of my life - until my husband came along - whose fate I have no idea about.
We were together for four years, he lived with my family for a bit, and we talked each other through a variety of twenty-something problems.
Ultimately though, he wanted to get married and I didn’t. He wanted our relationship to move forward, whereas I was very happy with the dinners out and not-too-much-commitment status quo. Don’t get me wrong – I desperately didn’t want to lose him either. What I wanted, was to have my relationship cake, but not to have to move in with it.
'Ghosted' by my ex. After four years I never heard from him again - Telegraph
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