Blooming Family

[EternalOptimist]

My niece is getting married in September. My brother and sister in law are paying for the wedding, the full monty and it will cost them £16k. The couple have recently bought a house for 88k (in the North West) and the invitaion has asked for contributions towards the mortgage rather than a pressie.
What is a reasonable sized contribution ?
We are not a very close family, they never visited, although I did help, financially, the girl through college a few years back.

[milanbenes]

bl@@dy hell, their house costs 88k and their wedding 16k

first of all tell them not to be so daft and have a wedding for 6k and
put 10k of it to the house !

then charge 'em a commission for this sound advice and then credit
them the cost of the commission as the gift from you

Milan.

[NetwkSupport]

depends on your day rate

[Kyajae]

My niece is getting married in September. My brother and sister in law are paying for the wedding, the full monty and it will cost them £16k. The couple have recently bought a house for 88k (in the North West) and the invitaion has asked for contributions towards the mortgage rather than a pressie.
What is a reasonable sized contribution ?
We are not a very close family, they never visited, although I did help, financially, the girl through college a few years back.

Instead of making a contribution, offer to 'invest' some money in the house. Then when it all goes tits up (which statisitcally most marraiges do), you hopefull should get a decent return.

(Kyajae in "it usually ends in tears" mode)

[Churchill]

My niece is getting married in September. My brother and sister in law are paying for the wedding, the full monty and it will cost them £16k. The couple have recently bought a house for 88k (in the North West) and the invitaion has asked for contributions towards the mortgage rather than a pressie.
What is a reasonable sized contribution ?
We are not a very close family, they never visited, although I did help, financially, the girl through college a few years back.

You're a contractor!

Pay their mortgage off!

[Barriebazg]

You're a contractor!

Pay their mortgage off!

And the wedding!!

[Clippy]

Send them a family of asylum seekers who can rent one of their rooms.

[gingerjedi]

I usually give around the £50 mark, generous enough without looking too flash.

Saying that when I got married last year a particularly tight member of her side gave us a £10 voucher, I wouldn't mind so much but she brought along her new boyfriend, her kids and his, fecking 6 of em' and we got 10 effin' quid

We will have revenge though as she's getting married (again) next month so what do you reckon? A fiver just to show that we noticed.... Or should I refer her to the gift we bought the first time around.

[Troll]

My niece is getting married in September. My brother and sister in law are paying for the wedding, the full monty and it will cost them £16k.:

The joy of having Daughters... and what a waste

although I did help, financially, the girl through college a few years back.

That was nice of you but I can't think of any reason why I would personally help my niece through college - was it altruism?

[cojak]

I gave my brother (closer than niece, note) £100 of Debenhams vouchers.

Send them the same....

This area seems to be fraught with danger. Hubby's brother and sister-in-law aren't speaking to us at the moment 'cos we didn't attend the nephew's wedding.

In Canada...