How one makes themselves not care about something ?
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How one makes themselves not care about something ?
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Originally posted by 2uk View PostHow one makes themselves not care about something ?
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Originally posted by 2uk View PostHow one makes themselves not care about something ?
Not care about someone !! ------> hard, only time can healComment
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Originally posted by SandyDown View PostNot care about something ----> easy, care about something else(replacement therapy)
Not care about someone !! ------> hard, only time can healLast edited by 2uk; 6 February 2008, 22:53.Comment
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Originally posted by 2uk View PostThe question states: How do you make yourself not care about something that you DO CARE FOR. ? For example how can you force yourself not to care about your children ?
Not care about something(i.e. How do you make yourself not care about something) ----> easy, care about something else (AKA replacement therapy, e.g. how do I make myself not care about work, easy care about somthing else so much like doing a course or travelling, soon you'd not care about work or rate or career)
Not care about someone(i.e. how can you force yourself not to care about your children) !! ------> hard, only time can heal (only time can make you forget about someone - separate from them for a very long time, meet others, adopt others... you'll still have memories, but you'd stop caring as much ... again its very hard, not as easy as making yourself not care about somthing (something/someone is different)Comment
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If you don't care about something, you aren't aware of not caring. You can't force yourself to not care about something, as that implies that you care whether you care or not. And if you were to reach a state of not caring, the fact that you're aware of not caring means that you do care.Will work inside IR35. Or for food.Comment
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Originally posted by VectraMan View PostIf you don't care about something, you aren't aware of not caring. You can't force yourself to not care about something, as that implies that you care whether you care or not. And if you were to reach a state of not caring, the fact that you're aware of not caring means that you do care.
Caring or not caring is as much about conscious action as it is about feeling. For example, a dog has just been run over - you care about what has happened because you love dogs and you know that a crime has been committed and feel the animal's pain and hate the driver for driving off and hope he gets caught and prosecuted. But if you don't do anything to help the dog get to a vet or else arrange it to be put out of it's misery, is that any better than to be someone who was indifferent to the dog's plight and just walked on by without a second thought? So you can force yourself not to care - very easily simply by conscious inaction.
Also, there are plenty of examples how humans ignore extreme levels of psychological pain so they 'switch off' their conscience to cope with what is happening. Ever heard of the Stockholm Syndrome? That happens when a victim or an accessory to a serious crime sides with the perpetrator to block out the pain of what is happening to them and eventually believes that no harm was really done or convinces themselves that the victim was lying or exaggerating. Very deep down they know that isn't true, but they won't allow their guilt to surface to face the enormity of their denial and feebleness to do something constructive - usually because of fear of what might happen to them. That is a basic human survival mechanism but is still another way of forcing yourself not to care.Last edited by Denny; 7 February 2008, 12:35.Comment
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