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Openness and Honesty in a Relationship

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    Openness and Honesty in a Relationship

    I have a hidden past, one that I'm not proud of, actually I'm quite ashamed of it. Question is, as I'm now in a serious relationship, should I volunteer that fact? It could mean the end of the relationship.

    And no, I'm not going to tell you what it is.

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    Yes. It will come out eventually.
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      #3
      Originally posted by Zippy View Post
      Yes. It will come out eventually.
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      We have ways of making you talk....
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      Socrates - "The only true wisdom is in knowing you know nothing."

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        #4
        Originally posted by cailin maith View Post
        WSS

        We have ways of making you talk....
        And they like it ...
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          #5
          It must be pretty hideous if you think it will end a relationship.
          The court heard Darren Upton had written a letter to Judge Sally Cahill QC saying he wasn’t “a typical inmate of prison”.

          But the judge said: “That simply demonstrates your arrogance continues. You are typical. Inmates of prison are people who are dishonest. You are a thoroughly dishonestly man motivated by your own selfish greed.”

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            #6
            Probably. Unless you honestly don't believe it is relevant, you will be bugged by it for ages. And of course things tend to get found out.
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              #7
              Originally posted by Moose423956 View Post
              I have a hidden past, one that I'm not proud of, actually I'm quite ashamed of it. Question is, as I'm now in a serious relationship, should I volunteer that fact? It could mean the end of the relationship.

              And no, I'm not going to tell you what it is.
              You're a contractor. What could possibly be worse than telling her that in the current market!

              EDIT: OMG - you're not a PM, are you?

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                #8
                Originally posted by Moose423956 View Post
                I have a hidden past, one that I'm not proud of, actually I'm quite ashamed of it. Question is, as I'm now in a serious relationship, should I volunteer that fact? It could mean the end of the relationship.

                And no, I'm not going to tell you what it is.
                is it just one incident or was it a whole period of your life?

                for the former i'd say keep it to your self as long as there is no chance of the other half finding out. Its clearly something you regret and you've moved on from. Why allow it to potentially ruin the rest of your life.

                If it was more than an isolated incident, then I'll cop out and leave that to someone elses judgement
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                  #9
                  Originally posted by Moose423956 View Post
                  I have a hidden past, one that I'm not proud of, actually I'm quite ashamed of it. Question is, as I'm now in a serious relationship, should I volunteer that fact? It could mean the end of the relationship.

                  And no, I'm not going to tell you what it is.
                  It's simple really, you have to be honest with yourself.

                  If there's no chance it could come out the question is; can you live with it? If you can then I'd keep schtum.

                  If there's a chance it could come out or you can't live with it, then you have to say something in order to sleep at night.

                  What you mustn't do is go with not saying anything....then change your mind later.

                  Just my 2p worth.
                  ...my quagmire of greed....my cesspit of laziness and unfairness....all I am doing is sticking two fingers up at nurses, doctors and other hard working employed professionals...

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                    #10
                    Originally posted by Moose423956 View Post
                    I have a hidden past, one that I'm not proud of, actually I'm quite ashamed of it. Question is, as I'm now in a serious relationship, should I volunteer that fact? It could mean the end of the relationship.
                    If you truly repent then your beloved might have a hard time coming to terms with whatever it is, but if he/she/it truly cares about you and believes you are sincere then it could ultimately strengthen your relationship. You might have to accept that they need some time to get their head around it though.

                    Furthermore, if it concerns you so much then it ultimately will come out: it may be better to deal with it now rather than risk things blowing up in your face. It's probably easiest to get these things sorted out sooner rather than later; the "You've been lying to me all these years, I feel like I never really knew you" argument is a difficult one to counter when it's true.

                    Of course I've never lived through your situation, so my advice is purely theoretical and probably valueless

                    Originally posted by Moose423956 View Post
                    And no, I'm not going to tell you what it is.
                    Go on, you know you want to

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