Christmas party attire dilemma

**wobbegong** · 29 November 2011, 10:52

I wouldn't. It won't do his self esteem any good to have the p*ss ripped out of him in public.

**Arturo Bassick** · 29 November 2011, 10:55

Originally posted by BrilloPad View Post

Me and my 4 year old autistic son attend the work Christmas party. There is a fancy dress prize for best boy and girl. My son loves the dressing up box - alas it is his older sister's stuff he prefers rather than his older brother's. We keep hiding the dresses - but he keeps digging them out.

I have never let him out in public like that. Should I?

Daughter goes as Cinderella. Father and son go as ugly sisters, sorted. All in fancy dress, lad gets to wear what he wants and Dad shows support, all in seasonally acceptable costumes.

**BrilloPad** · 29 November 2011, 11:00

Originally posted by wobbegong View Post

I wouldn't. It won't do his self esteem any good to have the p*ss ripped out of him in public.

Well it would not do my self esteem any good - but he is in his own little world. He has very little idea what is going on.

Though in some ways he can be quite clever. When he can't get on the computer at nursery he turns it off at the wall. Soon as the coast is clear he powers it back on. I have to admire the sneakiness.

**MarillionFan** · 29 November 2011, 11:12

Originally posted by BrilloPad View Post

Well it would not do my self esteem any good - but he is in his own little world. He has very little idea what is going on.

Though in some ways he can be quite clever. When he can't get on the computer at nursery he turns it off at the wall. Soon as the coast is clear he powers it back on. I have to admire the sneakiness.

You and him both.

**DimPrawn** · 29 November 2011, 11:13

Originally posted by MarillionFan View Post

You and him both.

Stop being so mean.

Lend him your Gingham dress FFS.

**MarillionFan** · 29 November 2011, 11:14

Originally posted by DimPrawn View Post

Stop being so mean.

Lend him your Gingham dress FFS.

It's got a stain on and it's in storage. May come in useful in the future.

**wobbegong** · 29 November 2011, 11:15

Originally posted by Arturo Bassick View Post

Daughter goes as Cinderella. Father and son go as ugly sisters, sorted. All in fancy dress, lad gets to wear what he wants and Dad shows support, all in seasonally acceptable costumes.

First rate suggestion!

**BrilloPad** · 29 November 2011, 11:18

Originally posted by MarillionFan View Post

You and him both.

**doomage** · 29 November 2011, 11:20

My eldest was diagnosed ASD when he was 2 1/2 but we have recovered him (he's 6 now, has been fine since starting school - combination of intensive ABA and biomed). They all have their little obsessions, luckily dresses was not one for us. At his birthday party last weekend he was Anakin Skywalker, I would have preferred Luke.

Other 'normal' 4 year old boys like to wear dresses, let him do what he wants. Plenty of time to bow to peer pressure in the future. If anyone gives him a hard time, take them out back for a kicking. Ask yourself, who's side are you on, his or theirs? Like all parents you might want to examine whether you are passing on your hang-ups to your children.

If you are interested in how we treated our autistic son you can PM me, I'll send you his story which the missus (who did most of the work while I kept on invoicing) wrote up.

Christmas party attire dilemma