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xux42
25th June 2012, 11:46
Guy near me, who I actually quite like in most respects, always makes a point of asking boss how evening was, has made sure to learn boss's family's names and how things are going in their lives.
Discussing the project he is managing, fine. But sympathising this the problems the boss is having with his other, unconnected projects?
Wishing the Boss well as he leaves to go to the Dentist??!!

Nobody else does this.

OK our boss signs his timesheets and will decide whether to extend the consultancy but this sycophancy is embarrassing everyone, including the boss.

Wouldn't annoy me so much if I didn't like him!

Sorry, just had to vent.

NotAllThere
25th June 2012, 11:51
Do you like him because he's seems genuinely interested in you as a person, asks after your family etc.?

I think it's called "being human".

SimonMac
25th June 2012, 11:52
If its not impacting on your work what's the harm, or put another way what's the problem?!

alreadypacked
25th June 2012, 11:56
Guy near me, who I actually quite like in most respects, always makes a point of asking boss how evening was, has made sure to learn boss's family's names and how things are going in their lives.
Discussing the project he is managing, fine. But sympathising this the problems the boss is having with his other, unconnected projects?
Wishing the Boss well as he leaves to go to the Dentist??!!

Nobody else does this.

OK our boss signs his timesheets and will decide whether to extend the consultancy but this sycophancy is embarrassing everyone, including the boss.

Wouldn't annoy me so much if I didn't like him!

Sorry, just had to vent.

I have been told that at some consultancy team meetings you have to report back personal information about the team + boss you a working with. Just doing his job!

Not that I would work for one of those "consultancy" again :sick

Diver
25th June 2012, 11:59
Guy near me, who I actually quite like in most respects, always makes a point of asking boss how evening was, has made sure to learn boss's family's names and how things are going in their lives.
Discussing the project he is managing, fine. But sympathising this the problems the boss is having with his other, unconnected projects?
Wishing the Boss well as he leaves to go to the Dentist??!!

Nobody else does this.

OK our boss signs his timesheets and will decide whether to extend the consultancy but this sycophancy is embarrassing everyone, including the boss.

Wouldn't annoy me so much if I didn't like him!

Sorry, just had to vent.

I sense a love triangle developing :laugh

MarillionFan
25th June 2012, 12:00
Sounds a right fawning lickspittle. He probably posts on here. I wonder who it could be?:rolleyes:

CodeCobbler
25th June 2012, 12:32
Sounds a right fawning lickspittle. He probably posts on here. I wonder who it could be?:rolleyes:

Probably not me, although everyone enjoys watching a good suck-up, especially when 6 months of sucking up doesn't pay off and the contract doesn't get renewed. Priceless.

northernladuk
25th June 2012, 12:58
He sounds the polite sort. I am sure he will put in to your leaving kitty when you get canned just after he signed his shiney new contract.

vetran
25th June 2012, 14:11
He is banging the Bosses wife, he is just finding out when the coast is clear and if the wife likes it up the OXO tower?

Or as suggested he actually is polite or actually even likes the boss?

Its standard sales procedure, every great salesman I have met makes a point of knowing about the contacts whole life. Some are just better at making it less obvious.

MarillionFan
25th June 2012, 14:16
He is banging the Bosses wife, he is just finding out when the coast is clear and if the wife likes it up the OXO tower?

Or as suggested he actually is polite or actually even likes the boss?

Its standard sales procedure, every great salesman I have met makes a point of knowing about the contacts whole life. Some are just better at making it less obvious.

You can't trust nice people. You never know where you really stand.

Doggy Styles
25th June 2012, 16:24
You can't trust nice people. You never know where you really stand.True, you can trust that statement.

:wink

d000hg
25th June 2012, 16:38
Guy near me, who I actually quite like in most respects, always makes a point of asking boss how evening was, has made sure to learn boss's family's names and how things are going in their lives.
Discussing the project he is managing, fine. But sympathising this the problems the boss is having with his other, unconnected projects?
Wishing the Boss well as he leaves to go to the Dentist??!!

Nobody else does this.

OK our boss signs his timesheets and will decide whether to extend the consultancy but this sycophancy is embarrassing everyone, including the boss.

Wouldn't annoy me so much if I didn't like him!

Sorry, just had to vent.This is how smart business-people work... people do business with people not faceless business entities.

Gentile
25th June 2012, 16:40
Guy near me, who I actually quite like in most respects, always makes a point of asking boss how evening was, has made sure to learn boss's family's names and how things are going in their lives.
Discussing the project he is managing, fine. But sympathising this the problems the boss is having with his other, unconnected projects?
Wishing the Boss well as he leaves to go to the Dentist??!!

Nobody else does this.

OK our boss signs his timesheets and will decide whether to extend the consultancy but this sycophancy is embarrassing everyone, including the boss.

Wouldn't annoy me so much if I didn't like him!

Sorry, just had to vent.

This sounds much like a conversation I had once with the worst colleague I've ever had in 22 years in technology. The boss and the boss's wife both worked for the company that employed me at the time, and they were both lovely. After a quick chat with the boss (who'd come in on his day off to fix a problem), I said cheerio, and told him to tell his missus I said hi (he'd mentioned they were heading off out for the day). As soon as the boss was safely out of earshot, my colleague Mr Charm-And-Personality called me a "suck up". Another day he called me a "whore". On yet another occasion, he stopped a meeting we were in to note that one of the other girls in said meeting had a small hole in her blouse, next to her breast.

In short, OP, he was a prize jerk that didn't know how to communicate with anything other than a computer (and he couldn't even do that much competently). If your colleague asking polite questions of the boss about his kids bothers you as much as you say, you may want to look inside yourself to ask why? And whether it's a more general aspect of your own personality that's the root cause.

xux42
25th June 2012, 16:45
If its not impacting on your work what's the harm, or put another way what's the problem?!

None at all - its just that I have never come across someone using these techniques so systematically and blatantly before.
Which is saying something what with working closely with freelancers continuously since 1983 (and met an awful lot of IT salespeople).

As I said, just venting.

The resulting posts are interesting though, thanks - I think you are all really interesting people.
Please do tell me, how is your <significant other here> keeping?
I will read and respond with interest without once referencing my own problems.
- Stepford freelancer

I think the reality is that Jim (let's call him Jim) is both genuinely interested in other people while at the same time expressing a 'professional' interest in the hand that feeds him.

xux42
25th June 2012, 16:51
If your colleague asking polite questions of the boss about his kids bothers you as much as you say, you may want to look inside yourself to ask why? And whether it's a more general aspect of your own personality that's the root cause.

Yes I know exactly what you mean, and I think you had a horrible experience. However, the way 'Jim' gets a 'missile lock' on the boss when he walks in the room has to be experienced to be appreciated.
You sound like the nice, naturally interested type, quite a different proposition.

EternalOptimist
25th June 2012, 17:00
'hey Boss, I forgot to mention it, but your kids are all little twats and I hope all your ******* teeth fall out. Any chance of an extension ?' - xux42




:rolleyes:

SupremeSpod
25th June 2012, 17:21
Yes I know exactly what you mean, and I think you had a horrible experience. However, the way 'Jim' gets a 'missile lock' on the boss when he walks in the room has to be experienced to be appreciated.
You sound like the nice, naturally interested type, quite a different proposition.

Now who's sucking up?

You w4nker!

fullyautomatix
25th June 2012, 18:00
Anybody know where Suity is contracting ?:nerd

SupremeSpod
25th June 2012, 18:04
Anybody know where Suity is contracting ?:nerd

Nope, neither does Suity :laugh

MarillionFan
25th June 2012, 18:06
Anybody know where Suity is contracting ?:nerd

I heard a big retail bank in London. Seems he was helping out with a software release of some kind.

Cliphead
25th June 2012, 18:12
Had a female boss once who insisted I 'service' her in return for an extension, once I realised she was serious I was happy to oblige on several occasions.

MarillionFan
25th June 2012, 18:13
Had a female boss once who insisted I 'service' her with my extension, once I realised she was serious I was happy to oblige on several occasions.

ftfy

Cliphead
25th June 2012, 18:15
ftfy

Whatever way you look at it it was a weird situation, a looker too and didn't lack attention.

EternalOptimist
25th June 2012, 18:19
Whatever way you look at it it was a weird situation, a looker too and didn't lack attention.

even the top totties need a quickie now and then.

or a 'bit o rough'


speakin as a bit of top male tottie like


and my @rse is a cream bun


:rolleyes:

Cliphead
25th June 2012, 18:23
even the top totties need a quickie now and then.

or a 'bit o rough'


speakin as a bit of top male tottie like


and my @rse is a cream bun


:rolleyes:

I may have been the bit o rough option although it did go on for the best part of a year (in 3 month blocks).

MarillionFan
25th June 2012, 18:24
I may have been the bit o rough option although it did go on for the best part of a year (in 3 month blocks).

Jesus. That's a severe case of anejaculation

EternalOptimist
25th June 2012, 18:25
I may have been the bit o rough option although it did go on for the best part of a year (in 3 month blocks).

:cool:

jeez. it's not often I get impressed

Cliphead
25th June 2012, 18:32
:cool:

jeez. it's not often I get impressed

There were other perks too. Instead of putting me up in a hotel during the week I was there she rented a flat for me (I guess that was the discretion thing), got paid for weekends so I didn't have to fly home but didn't do anything except make use of her office desk.

One of the other director's of the company was her husband and I'm sure he knew about this but didn't seem to object and we often socialised together.

vetran
25th June 2012, 20:19
One of the other director's of the company was her husband and I'm sure he knew about this but didn't seem to object and we often socialised together.

He was probably in the closet.

Hope you wiped it on the curtains after.

CodeCobbler
25th June 2012, 20:29
Had a female boss once who insisted I 'service' her in return for an extension, once I realised she was serious I was happy to oblige on several occasions.

Which company was this?

Cliphead
25th June 2012, 21:01
Which company was this?

They don't exist anymore, still want two references?

sbakoola
25th June 2012, 21:36
There was a certain chap in a certain Swiss Bank in Equities who was like this with the boss and the traders but if it was very late or very early in the morning and they weren't around and he though that you were of no consequence he would get verbally abusive towards you. A vile, two faced person who moved to a French bank.

You know who you are. Can't wait to bump into you again when we're on more of an equal footing or I am above you. Good luck, you'll need it.