DIY divorce

[BrilloPad]

Do-It-Yourself divorce 'revolution' - Telegraph

So instead of giving 50% to the lawyers and 50% to the woman, its now 100% to the woman.

Going to a lawyer during a divorce is a bit like going to the fire brigade when you have a fire. And watching them throw napalm on it.

[Halo Jones]

The proposal to legalise Pre-nups makes so much sense: sitting down & agreeing “terms” in advance when you are both loved up & thinking fair, sounds more civilised than in the event of a divorce when the knives are out & it’s more about revenge than logic.

[Troll]

The proposal to legalise Pre-nups makes so much sense: sitting down & agreeing “terms” in advance when you are both loved up & thinking fair, sounds more civilised than in the event of a divorce when the knives are out & it’s more about revenge than logic.

I see where you are coming from - but it sounds a bit tacky when you are supposedly making a life long commitment to another person to be formalising plans for a separation

[eek]

The proposal to legalise Pre-nups makes so much sense: sitting down & agreeing “terms” in advance when you are both loved up & thinking fair, sounds more civilised than in the event of a divorce when the knives are out & it’s more about revenge than logic.

But as was shown this week pre-nups only work in some circumstances. Things change, time moves on and what was fair in 2008 pre children is hardly fair in the wife had children and stopped work in 2009

[SueEllen]

You can do it while you are married as well.

[MicrosoftBob]

I see where you are coming from - but it sounds a bit tacky when you are supposedly making a life long commitment to another person to be formalising plans for a separation

But marriage is already a form of contract, surely setting the terms of any dissolution of that contract in advance is fairer

[hyperD]

I see where you are coming from - but it sounds a bit tacky when you are supposedly making a life long commitment to another person to be formalising plans for a separation

Having been through the tulipty messy end of it, one would wish marriage is exactly like the fairy tale from which we bought up with. But it's not. There's money to fight over and there's solicitors to make money out of it.

UK matrimonial law is ****ed up big time. Brillo I wish you well, but you're ****ed If you can avoid the lawyers then do so. One thing to remember: anything you think is fair in terms of money, property, assets.... forget it, it's hers. Spending £30k fighting over £20k is not worth it unless you're Paul McCartney.

And pre-nups: do check them, they're not cheap and they're not clear cut. They need to be updated when your personal finances change. Convenient for the lawyers.

Moral of the story: as a high earner, it's not worth the risk getting married in the UK.

[lukemg]

But marriage is already a form of contract, surely setting the terms of any dissolution of that contract in advance is fairer

Agreed and the terms of dissolution are already set, she agress to move some Wayne into your house to bring up your kids while watching your big telly and nobbing your ex, and you agree to pay for it..........it's only fair.

[BrilloPad]

I see where you are coming from - but it sounds a bit tacky when you are supposedly making a life long commitment to another person to be formalising plans for a separation

That was fine while life meant until you are 35. Now everyone lives so much longer.

Maybe marriages should have a life span of 10 years or so?

[BrilloPad]

Agreed and the terms of dissolution are already set, she agress to move some Wayne into your house to bring up your kids while watching your big telly and nobbing your ex, and you agree to pay for it..........it's only fair.

Easily fixed. Only buy a small telly.