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psychocandy
6th March 2014, 11:13
After a few months being ill, it now appears that wife is going to be diagnosed with Fibromyalgia (waiting confirmation of last test).

To be fair, she has struggled a bit lately. Even has trouble getting up and down the stairs and looking after a small baby has been tough for her.

It also affects the contracts I can take. Swanning off monday-friday just aint gonna fly. Got 'some' help from family but its limited unfortunately.

Looks like her plan to return to her job as a nurse in June is under threat too. Long way from being unable to walk upstairs properly to functioning as a nurse shall we say. So dont know how thats gonna work out.

Hey ho - makes you think when someone in the family gets ill.

mudskipper
6th March 2014, 11:17
Has she had her thyroid checked? The two often go together.

eek
6th March 2014, 11:18
Sorry to hear that. I think you are going to have to move either nearer support or nearer the work....

The Spartan
6th March 2014, 11:20
Perhaps you should ditch contracting and go perm as at least it would be less in the way of pressure and you could get something close to home, at the end of the day family comes first mate.

You could go back in a few years time as you know what it's like trying to find decent commutable contracts where we live.

psychocandy
6th March 2014, 11:28
Has she had her thyroid checked? The two often go together.

Dunno. Consultant is running last few tests to confirm at mo.

psychocandy
6th March 2014, 11:31
Perhaps you should ditch contracting and go perm as at least it would be less in the way of pressure and you could get something close to home, at the end of the day family comes first mate.

You could go back in a few years time as you know what it's like trying to find decent commutable contracts where we live.

Yeh. You're right.

Working away is deffo out of the question now. Still hopeful that I can get something commutable. Going perm really is last resort.

Current gig even though is really crap rate is still probably better income than even the best permie job I could hope to get locally.

Of course, decent gig would mean I could maybe pay for care/cleaners/nannies or whatever. And intend to look into what sort of thing she could get if she had to give up work.

The Spartan
6th March 2014, 11:39
Yeh. You're right.

Working away is deffo out of the question now. Still hopeful that I can get something commutable. Going perm really is last resort.

Current gig even though is really crap rate is still probably better income than even the best permie job I could hope to get locally.

Of course, decent gig would mean I could maybe pay for care/cleaners/nannies or whatever. And intend to look into what sort of thing she could get if she had to give up work.

Fair one, I was still a permie when my daughter was born so I was able to make the most of my time with her when she was little. You should make the most of it while you can as they grow up really quickly hence I didn't consider going contracting till she was older.

Money can buy a lot of things, but it can never buy the time you've missed.

MyUserName
6th March 2014, 11:52
Sorry to hear that :-(

psychocandy
6th March 2014, 12:08
Fair one, I was still a permie when my daughter was born so I was able to make the most of my time with her when she was little. You should make the most of it while you can as they grow up really quickly hence I didn't consider going contracting till she was older.

Money can buy a lot of things, but it can never buy the time you've missed.

True mate. Which is why I was never keen on the mon-fri thing even if mrs was in perfect health.

At the mo its ok though. I'm up at the crack (before 6) and on the train by 7, on site at 8. Means then I leave early and in the house at 5-30 so not too bad.

Bit tiring but it means I get to see the kids inc baby for few hours every night.

DirtyDog
6th March 2014, 13:01
Sorry to hear that. I think you are going to have to move either nearer support or nearer the work....
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Perhaps you should ditch contracting and go perm as at least it would be less in the way of pressure and you could get something close to home, at the end of the day family comes first mate.

You could go back in a few years time as you know what it's like trying to find decent commutable contracts where we live.
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Have a (manly) :hug:

Doggy Styles
6th March 2014, 18:29
I'm sorry to hear that Psycho. I hope you find something close to home.

d000hg
6th March 2014, 18:34
Yeh. You're right.

Working away is deffo out of the question now. Still hopeful that I can get something commutable. Going perm really is last resort.

Current gig even though is really crap rate is still probably better income than even the best permie job I could hope to get locally.

Of course, decent gig would mean I could maybe pay for care/cleaners/nannies or whatever. And intend to look into what sort of thing she could get if she had to give up work.Of course you rely on keeping a crap local gig for the long-term, if you get benched the perm job works out better - and it all adds more stress to being benched if you're relied on.

As a perm, you can also take time off for family emergency stuff, and still get paid.

Best of luck either way, but I reckon perm removes one area of uncertainty and stress.

psychocandy
7th March 2014, 08:45
Of course you rely on keeping a crap local gig for the long-term, if you get benched the perm job works out better - and it all adds more stress to being benched if you're relied on.

As a perm, you can also take time off for family emergency stuff, and still get paid.

Best of luck either way, but I reckon perm removes one area of uncertainty and stress.

True enough. Not keen on the old permie thing though. Trouble is once back to perm its difficult to get back out again without just quitting and starting again.

At least with current gig which looks like its going to run and run (they've just offered extension) its one week notice.

Platypus
7th March 2014, 09:11
True enough. Not keen on the old permie thing though. Trouble is once back to perm its difficult to get back out again without just quitting and starting again.

At least with current gig which looks like its going to run and run (they've just offered extension) its one week notice.

Stay with your current gig for now.

Sorry to hear about your missus. Best wishes with it.