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    I might throttle my MIL!

    MIL has always been a bit of a PITA. Very needy. Expects my wife to do everything for her.

    She comes on hols, we visit at weekend, take her for meals etc. She comes to stay and we cant get her to go home. Nightmare.

    Anyway, wife has been ill for 10 months since baby was born. Solution - MIL offered to stay a few days per week to help out. Seemed good idea - she likes staying, wife gets help, I get to go to work.

    But, no, MIL acts like a petulant child. Despite all the above, seems to think we owe her big time. Three times now in 9 months shes withdrawn assistance for the week saying shes busy - all of the times timed for affect (i.e. when I'm away or something). Bit like the tube strike.

    Its as if she wants us to know how important she is. Drives me nuts.

    Its not just babysitting can't go down the pub, it ****s wife up big time because shes ill. To be honest, I find her blackmailing behaviour disgraceful. Either help or **** off.

    Last summer I had to take a few days off from a gig away and almost got canned because of it. Not pleased. But MIL timed that one very well. Now I keep it secret when Im busy in work/away because she uses the info wisely.

    But shes done it again last week. Kids were both ill so MIL sees the opportunity, knows its tough for wife on her own during the day and goes for it again.

    Last night, she phones and offers to come this week (must be bored) if we NEED her. Shes won in her head and dont forget it. Of course, wife has no option other than to say ok so she'll be there when I get home tonight. I just want to punch her in the head!

    Can guarantee that come the winter she'll be phoning wife telling her how ill she is, how depressed she is, how she cant be bothered to cook for herself which will lead to a two week pamper-stay at our house. Come xmas she'll be there for two weeks again getting pampered.

    Before then she'll probably squeeze in another 'strike' over the summer to make sure we know how important she is.

    Give me strength not to chin her tonight!!!!!
    Rhyddid i lofnod psychocandy!!!!

    #2
    Originally posted by psychocandy View Post
    Last night, she phones and offers to come this week (must be bored) if we NEED her. :
    So call her back and say you don't need her and its inconvenient.....

    Until you stand up to her she has won....

    And we all know you are soft and just roll over while moaning on her....
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      #3
      Originally posted by psychocandy View Post
      MIL has always been a bit of a PITA. Very needy. Expects my wife to do everything for her.

      She comes on hols, we visit at weekend, take her for meals etc. She comes to stay and we cant get her to go home. Nightmare.
      ...nasty stuff etcetera
      Can you not arrange a professional carer to help your wife while you're away?
      And what exactly is wrong with an "ad hominem" argument? Dodgy Agent, 16-5-2014

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        #4
        Have you tried saying thank you and telling her she's appreciated? It sounds like she does a lot for you.

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          #5
          Originally posted by mudskipper View Post
          Have you tried saying thank you and telling her she's appreciated? It sounds like she does a lot for you.
          It also sounds like she's fishing for appreciation.
          And what exactly is wrong with an "ad hominem" argument? Dodgy Agent, 16-5-2014

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            #6
            Originally posted by Mich the Tester View Post
            It also sounds like she's fishing for appreciation.
            It does - but that could be because she isn't appreciated. It's a vicious circle, easily resolved by genuinely appreciating it.

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              #7
              Has anyone else noticed this worrying trend of mothers-in-law holding you to ransom?
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                #8
                Originally posted by psychocandy View Post
                She comes on hols, we visit at weekend, take her for meals etc. She comes to stay and we cant get her to go home.
                ...
                Despite all the above, seems to think we owe her big time.
                She spends three days a week helping out, and her thanks is that she gets to spend more time with you.

                I can't understand why she thinks that's not a good deal for her
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                  #9
                  Get an au pair in. It will cost you less than having to maintain the MIL in the manner to which she is accustomed.
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                    #10
                    Originally posted by Scruff View Post
                    Get an au pair in. It will cost you less than having to maintain the MIL in the manner to which she is accustomed.
                    Plus you're more likely to be on totty watch than with the MIL unless you have very niche interests
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